Meat N Potatoes and Lobster

His:
Had a rough day at the job. Everyone was cranky. (that was cleaned up!) Had to remind my crew that we are the service department not the complaint department!! Listened to the men talk about their gals at home. They all said the same thing. They want meat and potatoes a couple of times a week and lobster once a week. (you realize they aren't talking about food here...) I thought about it. Why is it that its so easy to connect in the beginning, but then later it seems to get put on the back burner? It's not like the guys don't try anymore, but lots of times they think the gals seem to be distracted, too busy, or maybe bored?



Hers:
It was a crazy day around here. The kids were fighting. (major aggravation) Once they settled their disputes things calmed down for a while. I was able to get in some work (thank God) and even a couple of loads of wash. Can't understand what happened to the fridge... I just shopped a couple of days ago and there's NOTHING to eat. Ran to the store for some dinner. Got back just in time for round two. By the time the kids settled down Hubs was home. He had a crappy day, I could see it in his face as he got out of the car. He cracked a smile at me and said, "So how was your day?" I thought about telling him, but didn't think he really wanted to hear. "Fine." (freaked out, insecure, neurotic and emotional!) That really said it all. He fell asleep during the news and went to bed early. Oh well. More laundry ahead!



Talk:
Many times partners find little time left for each other with all the responsibilities of work, family, kids and chores. It can take a toll on the relationship. Planning ahead for date nights, taking time out to take a walk together after supper, relaxing alone for an evening... these small efforts pay big dividends keeping partners in touch emotionally despite hectic schedules.



How do you keep emotionally engaged in your relationship?

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Karma works!!

His:
Okay, so I get home from work and the wife wants to have a friend over for dinner. My gut reaction is to say,"WTF are you nuts? I'm dog tired. It's not a weekend!! I just busted my butt at work all day!! I really just want to take a shower, eat dinner, veg out in front of the TV, scan the channels, watch a game, maybe get lucky... and go to bed early." But, I think... I figure if I agree nicely it'll come back to me... you know, karma and all that. So I agree. The kids are all here with their friends, playing PS3 upstairs and making a racket. Just about when I'm ready to ask them to simmer down, they head out for the night. Whew!! Her friend is nice enough and the rest of the evening goes by pretty well. Lucky for me the night ends at a reasonable time and I get to hit the sack early... etc... Karma works!!

Hers:
Today was a busy day. Ran some errands in the morning, had a client in the early afternoon. Found myself on the phone with a single friend who hasn't had any work in a while and is struggling. Tough economy. I figure we all need to eat anyway, so one more person for supper won't make much difference. It's nice to help others when you can. Hubs came home from work looking tired and dragged out. I told him we were having my friend over for dinner. He had a funny look on his face for a moment, seemed distracted, then said, "Sure, okay." It was busy around here with the kids having friends over, playing video games and laughing upstairs. A bit after dinner the kids started heading out for the night and our friend left to go home. Hubs was obviously tired but so sweet all night. I wondered what he was thinking, but he didn't say anything much when I asked. I made sure he got to bed early so he could rest after such a hard day. (Wink!)

Talk:
We all have times when we compromise. Relationships flourish when we make accomodations for our partners in small ways on a daily basis. When we make frequent small deposits into the bank account of our relationship, we have a balance of good feelings there to back us up when we need to make a withdrawal.



How do you make deposits in your relationship?